My sister, Sherry Carpenter Leavell, delivered this eulogy at my mom's memorial service this morning. It was not so much a eulogy as it was a tribute to my father, Jack Carpenter. I thought you, my readers, might like to read it. I wish you could have heard it. I was so proud of my sister, and of the others that spoke/sang/read at the memorial service: sister Kathy Carpenter Brooks and nieces Callie Brooks Picardo, Amy Leavell Cooper, and Belle Ensor. 
Memories of a Marriage
Over 60 years ago, on June
 19, 1953, at the youthful age of 20 and 22, my parents Jack and Diane 
were married. My Dad on that hot June day, home on a weekend leave from 
serving in the army at Fort Knox, said the
 following words: “I, Jack, take you Diane, to be my wife, to have and 
to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for 
poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, from this day
 forward until death do us part.”
It is with much admiration
 that their four daughters, 11 grandchildren, and many other family members
 and wonderful friends, have witnessed this couple as they so 
beautifully kept their wedding vows in sickness and
 in health, till death has caused them to be apart for a time.
Over 12 years ago, my Mom 
was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease. The first few years, my parents,
 who were affectionately called by so many of us, Gramme and Honey, were
 able to continue their routine of wintering
 in Destin, Florida, hosting our large family for Christmas night, 
eating dinner out most nights, Daddy playing lots of golf, and Mom 
happily entertaining herself at home. Slowly over the past handful of 
years as Mom's memory loss escalated, their lives began
 to change and narrow. 
Almost four years ago, my 
Dad had a hip replacement and was in the hospital for a few days and 
then went to Oaklawn for rehab. Mom was so distraught without Honey that
 her confusion greatly increased and made it
 impossible and unsafe for her to remain at home, even with us taking 
turns staying with her. We moved her to The Episcopal Church Home for 
her to settle in and begin a life apart from Honey. In our minds, it was
 time and we thought Dad would enjoy the freedom
 with less responsibility.
Not so. Honey recovered 
from his hip surgery and missed her so much that on Mother's Day of 
2010, he checked her out of the home and was determined he could care 
for Mom all by himself. He cooked for her, he cleaned
 the house, he took care of their large yard, he bathed her, dressed her
 and tended to her every need. I am convinced that the reason Mom lived 
as long as she did is because she was so well loved and cared for by 
Dad.
In God's Word, John 15:13
 tells us, "Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one's life 
for one's friends." That is a sacrificial love, an unconditional 
selfless love and that is what we have all been so
 beautifully privileged to witness these past 12 years. What is the 
secret to their love? You may be asking yourself if you were put in a 
similar situation, could you go the distance and love until death do us 
part? I believe the answer is found in Ecclesiastes
 4:12, a cord of three strand is not easily broken. In this case, there is the husband, the wife and the Lord is the third strand.
My Mom and Dad love one 
another and they also love Jesus. Daddy kneels by his bed every night 
and prays long prayers. Mom use to laugh because on occasion she says 
Daddy would be so worn out that he would fall asleep
 kneeling on the hardwood floors beside their bed. I believe it was the Lord 
who gave my Dad the perseverance, the patience and the tenderness that 
Mom's disease has required all these years.
It was a true love story 
and one that has changed me. I am proud of my Dad for the care and love 
he gave to our Mom. There was no greater legacy or gift he could have 
given to us girls than to care for our Mom in
 this way. So thank you Dad. I pray you will be abundantly blessed all 
your days and we look forward to making new memories with you.